Embodied Consent

A foundational practice for relating

Embodied Consent (informed by Wheel of Consent®) is a embodied awareness, attunement, and communication practice.

With deepened awareness, we are able to navigate our relationship with ourselves and others with more freedom, dignity, and integrity.

Engaging in this practice brings new clarity and ease, which in turn provides a foundation for more gratitude, joy, generosity, and confidence in all our interactions.

Friday, Saturday, Sunday
10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$725 + GST (CAD)

Max 14

Fredag till Söndag
10-18

4,700 SEK
Te och snacks ingår

Max 13

Luxurious residential retreat
Wed ~ Arrival & Dinner
Thu to Sat ~ Workshop
Sun ~ Breakfast & Departure

Commuter options available

Max 15

Friday, Saturday, Sunday
10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$825 + HST (CAD)

Max 15

Friday, Saturday, Sunday
10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$825 + HST (CAD)

Max 12

Through experimentation we deepen our skills in sensing and tending our own wants, needs, and boundaries and ability to support others with the same.

What people are saying

“It's truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of."

“I love myself and my partner more.” ~ RMT

”This course is so relevant to me personally, as I navigate how to be a good friend and partner, as well as professionally in my work as a counsellor and facilitator. By becoming clearer about when I am asking people in my life to give to or receive from me, and listening to my own and others' limits, I am able to create relationships with more safety and integrity for everyone.” ~ Trina

”Wow. Deep gratitude. Feeling a profound shift. “ ~ Plant Medicine Guide

"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others."

”This course has given me a safe container to build awareness of my willingness (as well as lack there of) to participate in all the circumstances of life. The practices were a place to for me to build comfortability with communicating new types of responses that accurately reflect my needs/wants.” ~ Lauren

"It has given me language to access direct pleasure, ask for what I want, and express boundaries. I can get more clean with people on what I want and what I am willing to tolerate."

"Amazing. Do this course. It will change your life, as you practice the skills that grow your confidence to live in greater residency in your body, and to take up the space in the world that you want and need." ~ Kristina

“Wow. This is the safest container I have ever been in. I’ve never experienced this freedom” ~ Plant Medicine Guide

What do we learn through this practice?

  • We deepen our understanding of how power dynamics, trauma, systemic oppression impact our capacity to access choice and respect for our boundaries.

  • We deepen our experience of fundamental dignity and self-trust.

  • We deepen our skills to notice what belongs to us (our body, our emotions, our wants, our limits, etc.) and what belongs to someone else.

  • We develop skills to notice, trust, value, and communicate our needs

  • We learn to notice when we want something.

  • We learn to notice when we are willing to do something or having something happen.

  • We learn to notice when we do not want something, when we are not willing to do something or have something happen.

  • We learn to notice our subtle signals when we are not safe-enough to connect with our wants and limits.

  • We become more aware of our tendencies to “go along” with what is happening - noticing the circumstances and places where it is more difficult for us to say no, stop, pause, or negotiate.

  • We learn to communicate more clearly with requests, offers, or invitations.

  • We learn to savour the experience of receiving a gift, and of giving a gift with ease.

  • We learn how to support others to notice their wants, needs, and limits and be able to communicate with them.

What do you mean by trauma-responsive?

Engaging in this practice means engaging with the most fundamental aspects of caring for and respecting personal autonomy.
This means we will connect with moments where we haven’t been able to care for our autonomy or respect another’s.

The whole design: the learning environment, the practices themselves, and how the practices are offered and facilitated, support moving slowly, at a pace where we can notice, choose how to participate, and digest and metabolize what arises.

The opportunities to experiment are small and short and each of them build on each other.
The pace is slow, the setting is private and comfortable, there are many options for how to participate, and the group agreements and guidelines support the practice.

What “safe-enough” means varies from individual to individual, and not every environment works for every person. Experimenting in this practice is particularly delicate for individuals and groups who have systematically experienced *not* having a choice, or not having their choices or bodily autonomy respected.
We also offer tailored programs for individuals and groups to best serve these needs.

The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and embodied awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin.

Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, and reshaped how therapeutic practitioners are trained.

Consent, in this context, means “an agreement between two or more people about what may or may not happen”. It goes beyond medical consent, beyond intimate consent, and applies to every type of agreement in any type of relationship.

Engaging in this practice develops our skills to notice personal, interpersonal, and group dynamics when making choices, respecting one’s own and others’ boundaries, and navigating relationships with more integrity, clarity, and freedom.

It is simple, subtle, and profound.

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What is the Wheel of Consent®?

Who is it for?

“Who is it for” is a central question in the practice of the Wheel of Consent®.

The practice of embodied consent is profoundly impactful for bringing deeper intimacy, integrity, and care into your relationship with yourself and others.

໑ Professionals who work with people to affect human change and healing
໑ Couples and individuals looking for deeper and more meaningful connection in their relationships
໑ Anyone interested in developing deeper self-awareness and relational skills for more ease and joy in life


Advanced embodied consent skills are essential for:
໑ practitioners and care providers working with vulnerable clients
໑ anyone working within a position of authority
໑ anyone committed to empowering clients/staff/students in developing their personal autonomy and power.

Wherever you are starting from, it’s a perfect place to come to this practice.

“Going along with” is so familiar to us that we hardly notice it is happening.
Slowing down, noticing, trusting, and valuing ourselves changes everything.

Looking for a customized offer?

I work collaboratively with teams and organizations to create offerings that are “safe enough” for your learning and tailored to your specific needs.

Past Offerings

Friday, Saturday, Sunday
10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$375-$725 + GST (CAD)

Max 15

Friday, Saturday, Sunday
10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$825 + GST (CAD)

* SOLD OUT*

Friday, Saturday, Sunday

10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$375-$825 + HST (CAD)

* SOLD OUT *

Friday, Saturday, Sunday

10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$375-$825 + HST (CAD)

* SOLD OUT *

Friday, Saturday, Sunday

10AM - 6PM

Residential Retreat:
$1,085-1,385 + GST
Commuter:
$495-895 + GST (w. lunch)

Friday, Saturday, Sunday

10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$825 + GST (CAD)

Feb 6, 13, 20, 27, Mar 5, 12

Tuesdays 6PM - 8PM

Sliding scale:
$250-625 + GST (CAD)

Friday, Saturday, Sunday

10AM - 6PM

Sliding scale:
$385-$825 + GST (CAD)

*SOLD OUT*

Join Helena De Felice and Amy Weissfeld at a luxurious and restful retreat to dive deep into this foundational practice for relating.
Transform your ability to connect with yourself and others.

This transformative modality increases our awareness, enabling more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.

Applied professionally, we become more effective practitioners, empowering others in their healing and development processes. Applied personally, we access deeper and more meaningful connections.

The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin. Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world and reshaped how therapeutic practitioners are trained.

This deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions.

It is simple, subtle, and profound.

Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes touch, relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.

This exquisite retreat experience is for:
໑ Professionals who work with people to affect human change and/or healing
໑ Couples and individuals looking for deeper intimacy and more meaningful connection
໑ Anyone interested in developing deeper self-awareness and relational skills for more ease and joy in life

Basic tickets (ideal for locals):
3-day workshop
3 gourmet lunches Fri, Sat, & Sun
from $495 sliding scale

Full package ticket:
3-day workshop
Luxury Retreat Lodging Fri & Sat
7 gourmet meals
from $881 sliding scale

Wheel of Consent Training, May 5-7, 2023, Vancouver

2 ½ day In-person Workshop, Applying It Professionally Virtual Session, and Individual Coaching.

Come away with a deepened ability to skillfully navigate consent in all your interactions, including:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play

In-person Workshop
Location: Vancouver, BC
Dates: May 5-7, 2023
Hours: Friday 6:30PM-8:30PM, Saturday 10AM-6PM, and Sunday 10AM-6PM

Applying It Professionally 
Thursday May 11, 2023 6:30-8:30PM
Virtual group session offering an opportunity to discuss and explore applying the Wheel of Consent to your specific professional context. 

Individual Coaching Call

Deepen your application of the Wheel of Consent practice in both personal and professional contexts. 
One hour-long individual coaching call. Schedule with Helena within 2 months of the workshop. 

Sliding scale tickets. Max 12 participants.

Wheel of Consent Training

2 ½ day In-person Workshop, Applying It Professionally Virtual Session, and Individual Coaching.

Come away with a deepened ability to skillfully navigate consent in all your interactions, including:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play

In-person Workshop
Location: Vancouver, BC
Dates: March 17-19, 2023
Hours: Friday 6:30PM-8:30PM, Saturday 10AM-6PM, and Sunday 10AM-6PM

Applying It Professionally 
Thursday March 23, 2023 6:30-8:30PM
Virtual group session offering an opportunity to discuss and explore applying the Wheel of Consent to your specific professional context. Open to participants who have completed a full Wheel of Consent training. 

Individual Coaching Call

Deepen your application of the Wheel of Consent practice in both personal and professional contexts. 
One hour-long individual coaching call. Schedule with Helena within 2 months of the workshop. 

Sliding scale tickets. Max 12 participants.

March 17-19, 2023, Vancouver

2 1/2 Day In-Person Wheel of Consent ~ Lausanne

Join us for this 2 ½ day in-person immersive workshop on the Wheel of Consent® – a powerful practice to improve the quality of your relationships and create clear agreements to experience satisfying connection to yourself and others. 

It is simple, subtle, and profound.

Location: Lausanne
Dates: May 27 to 29, 2022
Hours: Friday 4PM-8PM, Saturday 9AM-4PM, and Sunday 9AM-4PM
Space is limited to 15 participants

Register here: CHF325

You will come away from this course with the ability to
໑ Create a felt-sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want and what you don’t want
໑ Notice the tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others

This Workshop
໑ Is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – with intimate partners, friends, parents, children, or colleagues
໑ Is experiential – you will have plenty of opportunities to practice and explore
໑ Respects your boundaries – you will always have choices about how you engage with the practices and exercises
໑ Lets you start where you are – regardless of how much you know about the Wheel, there are always new levels of awareness to be found
໑ Teaches you the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body and see where they can take you
໑ Is open to all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship constellations

Accessibility
໑ This workshop will be taught in English. French interpretation is available
໑ Thank you for not wearing scents (e.g. perfume, scented lotion, aftershave)
໑ We are offering limited partial scholarships. These scholarships are reserved for individuals from marginalized and oppressed communities and based on financial need, with priority going to applicants who are BIPOC. To apply, please email Helena De Felice.

Acknowledgments About Race
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safer space that is inclusive. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. We feel that it is responsible to name that our capacity to provide a safe and supportive learning experience for Black, Indigenous, and People of Color is limited by our whiteness. This course will be taught by a white-conditioned, white-privileged instructor and the demographics of the participant cohort may be predominantly white. As facilitators and humans, we are committed to unlearning and waking up to the ways in which we are unconscious of racism and participate in its patterns so that we may better serve you.

2 1/2 Day In-Person Wheel of Consent ~ Lausanne

Join us for this 2 ½ day in-person immersive workshop on the Wheel of Consent® – a powerful practice to improve the quality of your relationships and create clear agreements to experience satisfying connection to yourself and others. 

It is simple, subtle, and profound.

Location: Lausanne
Dates: September 17 to 19, 2021
Hours: Friday 6PM-9PM, Saturday 9AM-4PM, and Sunday 9AM-4PM

Register here: CHF300

You will come away from this course with the ability to
໑ Create a felt-sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want and what you don’t want
໑ Notice the tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others

This Workshop
໑ Is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – with intimate partners, friends, parents, children, or colleagues
໑ Is experiential – you will have plenty of opportunities to practice and explore
໑ Respects your boundaries – you will always have choices about how you engage with the exercises
໑ Lets you start where you are – regardless of how much you know about the Wheel, there are always new levels of awareness to be found
໑ Teaches you the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body and see where they can take you
໑ Is open to all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship constellations

Accessibility
໑ This workshop will be taught in English. French interpretation is available
໑ Thank you for not wearing scents (e.g. perfume, scented lotion, aftershave)
໑ We are offering limited partial scholarships. These scholarships are reserved for individuals from marginalized and oppressed communities and based on financial need, with priority going to applicants who are BIPOC. To apply, please email Helena De Felice.

Acknowledgments About Race
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safer space that is inclusive. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. We feel that it is responsible to name that our capacity to provide a safe and supportive learning experience for Black, Indigenous, and People of Color is limited by our whiteness. This course will be taught by a white-conditioned, white-privileged instructor and the demographics of the participant cohort may be predominantly white. As facilitators and humans, we are committed to unlearning and waking up to the ways in which we are unconscious of racism and participate in its patterns so that we may better serve you.

COVID Protocols
໑ We will be in a large room with windows. There is enough space to keep distance from others if you wish. Interacting with each other and touching others is voluntary and negotiated in advance.
໑ Please only show up if you show no symptoms of cold (sore throat, cough, fever or congested/runny nose)
໑ The use of face masks is voluntary. We have paper masks and disinfectant available for you to use.

Join us for our Eight-Week Online Wheel of Consent® Workshop

This workshop is delivered via Zoom
8 sessions, January 30 to March 20, 2021
9am-11am Pacific Jan 30, Feb 13, Feb 20, Feb 27, Mar 6, Mar 13, Mar 20
9am-10am Pacific Feb 6
Check your local time zone here: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html


Facilitators: Helena De Felice & Max Pearl

We have a maximum of 23 participants.

Limited early bird tickets $325 USD
Regular tickets $375 USD

Register here

Join us for this 8-week workshop series on the Wheel of Consent® – a powerful practice to improve the quality of your relationships and create clear agreements to experience satisfying connection to yourself and others.

We will engage in a radical inquiry into and practice of the nature of receiving and giving, the nature of consent, knowing what you want, and how to communicate it.

The Wheel of Consent® offers a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into human interaction, starting with touch and relationships, and further expanding our understanding of consent to social issues of equality and justice.

It is simple, subtle, and profound.

You will come away from this course with the ability to:
໑ Create a felt-sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want and what you don’t want
໑ Notice the tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others

This Workshop

໑ Is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – with intimate partners, friends, parents, children, or colleagues
໑ Is experiential – you will have plenty of opportunities to practice and explore
໑ Respects your boundaries – you will always have choices about how you engage with the exercises
໑ Lets you start where you are – regardless of how much you know about the Wheel, there are always new levels of awareness to be found
໑ Teaches you the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body, and see where they can take you
໑ Is open to all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship constellations

Accessibility
໑ This workshop is taught in English with interpretation/support in French available
໑ Closed captions are available during the sessions
໑ All sessions are recorded in speaker view and available to attendees only for 2 weeks after the last session
໑ Noone is turned away for lack of funds. We offer limited partial scholarships. If finances are a barrier, please reach out to Max or Helena directly to express your need and request for a scholarship or payment plan.

Acknowledgments About Power and Privilege
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safer space that is inclusive. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. We feel that it is responsible to name that our capacity to provide a safe and supportive learning experience is limited by our lived and learned experiences as facilitators. As facilitators and humans, we are committed to unlearning and waking up to the ways in which we are unconscious of our own patterns of oppression so that we may better serve you.

Tickets are non-refundable. If, for some reason, you book a ticket and then can't make it, you are welcome to find someone to take your spot. We invite you to be clear, listen to your YES and sign up for experiences you really want to be present for, and then show up!

About the facilitators
Helena De Felice (we/they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® on faculty of the School of Consent. Born in Sweden, they now live on the stolen territories of the xʷməθkwəy̓əm (Musqueam), Skwxwú7mesh (Squamish), and sel̓íl̓witulh (Tsleil-waututh) Nations (colonially known as Vancouver, Canada). They offer sessions, courses, and experiences for people to develop skills in sovereignty, intimacy, and connection.

Maxwell Pearl has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience, and a Certificate of Theological Studies from Pacific School of Religion. Max is a long-time practitioner of contemplative spirituality, both in Buddhist and Christian traditions. He has taken training by Gay and Katie HendricksBody TrustBody Electric School, and School of Consent where he is a facilitator-in-training. He has studied embodiment modalities including Tantra and Authentic Movement. He has been teaching contemplative practices since 2005, and currently teaches and coaches individuals and groups on emotional awareness, self-love, embodiment, and consent.

The Art of Receiving and Giving: A Six-Week Online Wheel of Consent® Workshop

SOLD OUT
Six-Week Online Wheel of Consent® Workshop
Sundays Aug 8, 15, 22, 29, Sept 5, 12. 2021
9-11am Vancouver / 12-2pm New York / 6-8pm Stockholm
Facilitators: Helena De Felice & Robyn Dalzen

We have a maximum of 22 participants. our previous 5 courses have all sold out.

Limited early bird tickets $325 USD
Regular tickets $375 USD

BOOK HERE

Join us for a six-week online course on the Wheel of Consent® – a powerful practice to improve the quality of your relationships and create clear agreements to experience satisfying connection to yourself and others. It is simple, subtle, and profound.

YOU WILL COME AWAY FROM THIS COURSE WITH TOOLS TO:
໑ Create a felt-sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want and what you don’t want
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others

Understanding and embodying the Wheel of Consent® happens through a somatic experience – you feel it in your body. And with this, you will start to rewire old patterns around giving and receiving. You will feel clearer about expressing yourself and understanding others, enjoying more authentic connections with greater ease.

THIS WORKSHOP:
໑ Is online and includes home practices between meetings
໑ Is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – with intimate partners, friends, parents, children, or colleagues
໑ Is experiential – you will have plenty of opportunities to practice and explore
໑ Respects your boundaries – you will always have choices about how you engage with the course
໑ Lets you start where you are – regardless of how much you know about the Wheel, there are always new levels of awareness to be found
໑ Teaches you the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body and see where they can take you
໑ Is open to all genders and sexual orientations

WORKSHOP DETAILS:
This is a six-week online course. We meet once a week for two hours. We will offer options for home practice that include both solo practice and paired – and with each paired practice, there is an option to do this remotely or face to face. There will be lots to experiment with and notice!

We believe in this work and want it to be accessible. Live captions will be available during the sessions. The sessions will be recorded and made available to course participants only, so you can come back to the material.

Acknowledgments About Race
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safer space that is inclusive. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. We feel that it is responsible to name that our capacity to provide a safe and supportive learning experience for BIPOC is limited by our whiteness. This course will be taught by white-conditioned, white-privileged instructors and the demographics of the participant cohort may be predominantly white. As facilitators and as humans, we are committed to unlearning and waking up to the ways in which we are unconscious of racism and participate in its patterns so that we may better serve our community.

We are offering three (3) partial scholarships for a ticket price of US$200 each ($175 off the regular registration fee). These scholarships are reserved for individuals from marginalized and oppressed communities and based on financial need, with priority going to applicants who are BIPOC. To apply, please complete this form.

Tickets are non-refundable. If, for some reason, you book a ticket and then can't make it, you are welcome to find someone to take your spot. We invite you to be clear, listen to your YES and sign up for experiences you really want to be present for, and then show up!

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My relationship to the Wheel of Consent®

Since first being introduced to the Wheel of Consent® in 2016, it has transformed how I approach every aspect of my life that involves choice making and relationships. I left my first immersive training with the experience that my whole brain had rewired - my inner compass for desires, needs, and limits had been reset - and it gave me a completely new frame and somatic awareness to engage from.

Since then, I have worked with hundreds of individuals in groups and one-on-one sessions, and continue to develop and deepen my own practice of embodied consent.

It is an honour and great fulfilment to get to share this work with you.